futility of attachments

Attachment is one item or feeling that the wise and sagacious would avoid like the plague. The reason for this has dawned on me well nigh over 60years of existence. I have been born a very warm and sentimental person and raised to love and be loved. Fortunately I  have had a happy and loving family., very warm parents and a host of cousins, sisters and a brother who have all showered their love  and affection on me..until very recently...My nieces and nephews have doted on me till they all grew up and learned the ways of this wicked world..Having basked in love and affection for about 50 years of my life, it is very painful and hard for me to now accept the reality that I now experience. I so sincerely and devoutly believed  that love begets love, gratefulness begets gratitude ,kinddeeds beget kindness in return.  It is now seen that most people have no time to think of kindness, gratitude or love. With a bundle of attachments taht I have accumulated over 60yrs, what do I do now ? It seems to be  futile. People do not want it nor are they willing to be tied down by affection. Maybe  it is my abberation. I oftentimes think..A lot has been said about attachments to anything in life because we have to leave them all behind when the time comes. That is why people get detached when they get on in years. It is easier to preach then practise detachment. We all succumb to feelings of joy or sorrow when it affects our own kids or our immediate family. How are seers able to remain stoically detached even in such circumstances." There is one answer.. They practise it at every step and this feeling has to grow on you, take roots and get firmly entrenched in our system. It is very difficult but what I now would like to try is just that. This is an age where our own flesh and blood would not hesitate to turn around and ask you why you still are attached to them and expect them to reciprocate the same!
How to begin doing it is the next poser. I think one should start with material things..,,,,,,,,,give up attachment to things..be it clothes, jewellery, etc ect..even good food. If we can gradually abstain from these by denying ourselves indulgences,resist temptations to buy a sari or jewel, or just observe upvas or fast on some days in a month, it would be the first step to abstinence thru restraint.This is also the period when we can give away what dont want to keep...better still give away what we want to keep ...or whatever we are attached to...
The next step would be to talk less amd slowly to take it to a mouna vrath practise on some days for a small duration. That time can be used to think of God.
It is important to avoid all kinds of gossip and lend no ear to any loose talk.If that is not done we could be dragged into the misery of attachment again.
The next step would be to devote more time to prayer and chanting slokas. This will surely give peace and calm and by the time we practise all these and try to live a more or less unattached life , we would be ready to touch HIS feet..